Tribulations at Home Help me to Improve my Understanding of the Fa

By a UK Dafa practitioner

One night about two months ago, when I returned home from a group exercise practice, my husband was browsing on the Internet and my son was playing beside the desk. Because there were two emergency phone calls to be made, I asked my husband to log off. To my surprise, he suddenly got angry and told me no. My son noticed that the atmosphere was not right and he told my husband, “You should let Mom make her phone calls.” My husband knew that my son was right. Although he said he would, he remained where he was and told me to wait for two hours. I felt that his behaviour was ridiculous, but I waited quietly hoping that he would recognize his impropriety by himself and let me use the phone line soon. However, he continued to browse all over the web with the sole purpose of irritating me. Then, I got angry too.

I took a cushion, walked out of the back door and sat in the dark yard with grievance filling in my mind. Before long, my husband and son opened the door. They seemed to be relieved after seeing me sitting on the grass. They turned back and closed the door. Raising my head, I saw a sky full of shining stars. My heart gradually calmed down and I knew I was wrong. I remembered that when people treat me unfairly, I still should be nice to them. What I think and what I do at that moment should be for the benefit of others; no arguments and no complaints. Only when I learn not to blame for their faults can my magnanimity, compassion and sincerity be manifested. Otherwise, can we still be regarded as Dafa practitioners when we point the finger at others? Where is our compassion after all? Teacher Li said, “A benevolent person always has a heart of compassion. With no discontentment or hatred, he takes hardship as joy.” [“Realms” in Essentials for Further Advancement]

Realizing all of this, I got up and went back into the house. My son asked, “Why did you go outside?” With a smile, I replied, “Just to see the shining stars.” My son laughed and so did my husband. When I entered the bedroom, my husband had gone off-line and I could make my phone call.

This is not the end of the story. What happened afterwards, to my surprise, was a significant change in my husband. After a day’s work, he used to log on the Internet for a long time every evening. In the past whenever I needed to use the phone, and asked him to log off, he was always reluctant and unhappy. He continued to give me tribulations on this matter. He always found something to complain about me. After this event, however, a fellow practitioner telephoned one evening when my husband was just about to log onto the Internet. Knowing that I had a phone call, my husband asked my son to play soccer with him in the yard. About half an hour later when I was still on the phone, he asked from the yard, “Are you finished?” I replied, “I will be done soon.” It seemed that he only caught the word “done” and he said in a friendly tone, “Why didn’t you let me know that you were done?” Once he came in and saw I was still using the phone, he did not say anything but turned back to continue to play. The phone conversation was not completed until 15 minutes later. It was so great that he stayed very patient. As soon as I finished the phone conversation, I called him “I am done now, the line is yours!” He then came in to use the Internet.

I noticed furthermore that he did not get angry whenever I needed to use the phone since this event. He appeared to be much more reasonable. Teacher Li said, “The Buddha-light illuminates everywhere and rectifies all abnormalities.” [“Energy Field” in Lecture 3 of Zhuan Falun] Being a lucky Dafa practitioner, I have understood the profound principle of searching inward for my own faults whenever problems arise. No discontentment and no finger-pointing; only to ask the best out of myself. No matter how hard it becomes, we must try to carry out this understanding in our daily actions. As Teacher Li said before, I found the people and environments surrounding me also became much warmer and more harmonious. What a great Fa!

Translated from Chinese Clear Harmony at
http://yuanming.net/articles/200210/12972.html